Due to recent changes in government thinking, family mediation is becoming the preferred way of resolving disputes. As it is a legally privileged process, anything said in mediation cannot be disclosed in court unless both parties agree.
We are an independent service, operating from our specialist mediation suite in the heart of Southend-on-Sea. We cover the whole of Essex, offering a professional, cost effective solution to couples facing separation or divorce.
Agreeing arrangements for the children or how you will divide money
or property if your relationship has ended can be very hard.
Sometimes, it is just too hard to do by yourself.
Feelings can get in the way and discussions about practical things get lost in the hurt and anger. And when you do manage to discuss them, most people are feeling less reasonable and less fair than usual. Many people find it useful to get some help.
One option is to meet together with your ex and a mediator, who has been properly trained to help you put your feelings aside and focus on the practical issues that need to be sorted out.
The mediator won’t take sides or decide what is fair for you – they are simply there to help your discussions.
Mediators don’t give you legal advice, so it is usually wise to see a solicitor too.
You can use family mediation straight away after deciding to end your relationship or later if you are still having problems.
Other people choose to get a family solicitor to negotiate with their ex for them. Some people can’t agree even with help and take the issue to court so that the court can decide.
Nobody has to use mediation. However, if you want to go to court over a
family problem (like how to divide money or property after splitting up or where
the children should live, for example) you have to show the court that
you have met with a mediator first and considered mediation.
This is because the government thinks it is usually better that you decide these things between yourselves if you can, rather than the court telling everyone what to do. This first meeting is called a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (or MIAM) and can be free if you qualify for Legal Aid.